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2025 Forecast: Resolutions are Out. Mindfully Building Good Habits Is In.
And I wrote a book for that!
It’s December 29th, 2024, and there’s a New Moon in Capricorn tomorrow. That’s great for me, as I’ve got big plans and goals for 2025. I also have a lot of hope (in spite of the national and global political situation). You know what I don’t have? Resolutions.
For decades, from my late teens until my early 40s, I had one big resolution, and it was the same every year. Each year around this time, I would start a fresh campaign of self-bullying and resolve that next year I would “be more disciplined.”
It breaks my heart to remember the annual blitzkrieg, based as it was in self-loathing and shame. I saw my issues as being a matter of my laziness, thus the answer must lie in being a whip-cracking colonizer of my own sweet self. No wonder I was miserable.
Everything changed for me in 2020. I truly don’t know how to explain it. The change coincided with the onset of the pandemic, but I can’t say for sure whether that relationship was causal or correlational. What I can say for sure is that I am no longer in an abusive relationship with myself.